Thursday, March 18, 2010

The End

While I have a few minutes in all the hubbub, I want to share that Curt passed away last night. Curt's breathing continued to be heavy yesterday. I called Hospice a couple times and gave him some Lorazepam about 8:30 and midnight last night. I slept on a cot next to sofa and woke up about 1:30 with him flaying around (and partly on my cot) and having difficulty breathing. I called the Hospice nurse on duty (Chrissy), and she came over after 2 AM. She gave him morphine to help with the breathing. This made him flay some more, so she gave him more Lorazepam too. That did not work either, so she gave him some Valium. That seemed to do the job. She was here over 1 1/2 hours and talked about how bad this cancer is. It grows quickly and was impinging on his air supply. She thought the Valium should last about 4 hours and told us to get some sleep. I was going to get a hospital bed and caregiver today and see about sedating him. I did go back to sleep listening to his snoring, but Sue thought it got quiet around 5 AM. Jack and Sue woke me about 7:30 and said they thought Curt had passed away. They called Hospice and Linda was here right away. She removed all Hospice things and made important phone calls. The Huffords and Reistads are here and helping out. We caught Beth before she got on the airplane here. Angie packed and is driving down now. Jef is going to get Beth and bring the girls down later. We have lots of things to take care of now.
Curt was strong until the end. He walked with his walker to bathroom at 9:30 last night. On Tuesday night he played a couple rounds of Mexican Train Dominoes (with lots of help) with Gordon and me. I don't think he was in pain. He did not ask for any pain medicine, but did have the patch. Chrissy said she didn't see any furrows in his brow to indicate pain. He is finally at peace now. We hope to decide on time for a memorial service by this evening. I want to talk to the girls. I am thinking of Friday or Saturday next week (March 26 or 27).

11 comments:

Unknown said...

In our church, we would commend Curt's spirit to God. I'm confident that Curt is in good hands in any event, and that he is destined to share in whatever God has planned for him in His eternal rule. Now I pray for strength and comfort for all of Curt's family and friends. Steve Love

Unknown said...

My deepest sympathy during this difficult time. Sending love,
Evelyn Love

Becky Frame said...

I have been following your blog updates faithfully and I am crying with you today.

Unknown said...

Joan,
So sorry to read of Curts passing. I'm glad he was able to stay home and have hospice so you could be with him. You and your girls will be in my prayers. Wish I could be there to give you a hug, but know I will be thinking of you at this difficult time.
Rosie Meyer

Bob Hellstrom ; Louise Hellstrom said...

Joan and family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this time of sorrow. Be assured that Curt is no longer suffering, and we can believe that we will someday be reunited with him and our God in heaven. Louise and I so enjoyed our short visit with you in October of 2008. You were both very gracious hosts, and we will never forget our time together.
God's blessings, Bob and Louise

Unknown said...

Curt has moved on, but his impact and positive influence remains. I was so lucky to have met him and get to know him over the past several years. Where ever Curt has gone to, it has just become a better place upon his arrival. Joan, to you and the family, my deepest condolences.

Alicia and Dave Straub said...

We are so sad to lose Curt, but thankful that he didn't seem to be in pain. We will certainly miss him. Our prayers are with you as you mourn his loss. Please let us know if there is anything you need us to do.

Bob & Mina Johnson said...

Joan & Family,
Tom called Bob this evening and told us about Curt. [Bob had just checked your blog for an update yesterday.] You have had a real test of faith and hopefully it gave you comfort and strength during this journey. May you find peace and happiness in your memories of Curt. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Take care, Bob & Mina Johnson

Wendy said...

Even though we all knew that Curt's struggles were coming to an end, the reality of his passing is still hard to read on your blog. You chronicled such a loving way for family and friends to deal with his disease and gave all a chance to be with him at the end. It is a testament to your love for Curt. My condolences to you and your family.

Wendy DeVos Carnahan
MHS Class of 1961

jill h said...

We extend our most heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. We are so saddened by your loss and are so grateful to have met you and your wonderful husband. May your wonderful memories with him give you strength and comfort.

Love,
Jill, Dan, Ben, David, and Matthew Harvey

Wofford Women's Tennis Team said...

We were deeply saddened by the news that Curt has passed away. We believe he left life too soon but we are sure you have many nice memories. Memories - through which Curt will always be vivid.
Love,
Ingela, Dan, Cathrine and Charlotte